BONDO

We are starting a simple movement:

Embracing the full richness of life through heart-to-heart connections.

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What is BONDO?

Heart-to-heart connections with loved ones, friends, and acquaintances feed a primary need in all people.

Poets describe this feeling with words of love and longing, but true connections are born from the stillness of an open heart. 

Spiritual seekers seek this stillness by turning within, often overlooking where God’s presence is most alive — in the human encounter.

BONDO describes the capacity to form heart-to-heart connections in the moment and grow them over time. It’s a conscious act similar to the theatrical term, “breaking the fourth wall.”

In the same way that the fusion of nuclear forces powers the universe, BONDO transforms human boundaries to release love, creativity, and meaning. The closest equivalent comes from Plato’s concept of Eros: the ‘ladder of love’ that guides human transformation.

We have identified seven guideposts – Seven Seas – for building these deeper, richer connections.

This is an invitation to step beyond dogmas and theologies to discover the living presence we seek by opening our hearts to others.

The Seven Seas of Bondo

1. CONNECTION — A shared, energetic vibration deepens through face-to-face proximity and time.

2. CONVERSATION — Call and response is a creative force that builds the substance of intimacy.

3. CARING — Caring for our fellow humans begins with the gift of attention.

4. CURIOSITY — Everyone carries a hidden story of struggle and adversity that we can learn to embrace without judgment.

5. CIRCULATION — Like bees bringing pollen to the hive, intimacy is energized by the food of impressions that we bring into a relationship.

6. COURAGE — A genuine connection begins with risk. Crossing the gulf of conflict and misunderstanding releases a force that opens the heart.

7. CONSTANCY — A commitment made outside of time transcends the walls of despair that divide us.

Each friend is a world in us.

“Each friend represents a world in us, a world not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”

~ Anais Nin

 

“If you can fall in love again and again… you’ve got it half-licked.”

~ Henry Miller reflecting on life at eighty

Photo: Henry Miller & Anais Nin

Videos

Bondo is the common thread for the people who rise to the top in life, career, and love.

It also takes many forms: Michell Obama offering 15 seconds of connection, Kelly Clarkson spreading the love with a street musician, and Anthony Bourdain going heart-to-heart with the pizza guy. 

"The longer I live, the more deeply I learn that love... is the work of mirroring and magnifying each other's light."

~ James Baldwin

No longer on the run from your aloneness, your connections with others become real and creative. You no longer need to covertly scrape affirmation from others or from projects outside yourself.

~ John O’Donohue

“When a system is far from equilibrium, small islands of coherence have the capacity to shift the entire system.”

~ Ilya Prigogene, (Chemistry) Nobel Laureate

It seems to me, that if we love, we grieve. That’s the deal. That’s the pact.

– Nick Cave

Life is no brief candle to me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for the moment and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.”

~ George Bernard Shaw

"Everything you love will probably be lost, but in the end, love will return in another way."

~ Franz Kafka

"The essence of spirituality and mysticism is readiness to serve the person next to us."

~ Hazrat Inayat Khan

“Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”"

~ Khalil Gibran

Thoughts on Bondo

Bondo is a work in progress…

Connecting heart-to-heart is natural — but you have take the plunge.
We will be creating opportunities to build some muscle memory with Bondo.

 

Author Bruce Miller, with help from his therapist friends, developed Bondo as a way to restore deep human connection after his wife passed away a year ago. Much to his surprise, it worked.

To learn more about the writing and work of Bruce Miller, visit his author website at IThou.com
Or visit Bruce’s Substack blog at IThou.Substack.com.

 

Bondo Life is a work in progress being organized by Bruce Miller and Carole Anne Cantey. Please stay tuned as we bring the people and parts together.